"you are not your thoughts, you are the listener" sounds a little flaky but is actually a really helpful phrase to remember when you catch an oppressive narrative getting recited in your head
PSA: Did you know you can support your favorite writer without buying their book? Get it from the library! We still get paid - and often the library will get the book if you request it, which you can usually do on their website. Spread the word!
I regret to report that the secret to making friends in your 30s is to go out and do things and then ask the people there if they would like to go out again and do more things
The older I get the more I realise I DO want men to be strong. But not physically strong, rather, strong enough that if they hear something that upsets them, instead of shouting, or fighting, or sulking, they ask, “is there any way to do better?”
I don’t understand why entertainment outlets write and re-write that “toxic fandom” article without ever going deep on the fact that 90% of the time, heat isn’t coming from “fandom,” it’s coming from right-wing political groups injecting far-right ideas into highly visible subcultures. It’s an op.
If anyone has done DNA testing with 23andMe, that company is going under, and all your data will be transferred to whoever the new buyer is. Go in and delete it before that happens.
Ugh yesss! Toxic ST Fandom at the time said if you only liked TNG you were a Trekker and don't you DARE call yourself a Trekkie if you weren't balls deep in TOS first and foremost, which teenage-me agonized over bc Trekker sounded stupid af but to this day TOS is just meh for me.
Anyone who thinks "toxic fandom" started with social media should read up on Doctor Who fans in the 1980s
E. ALL OF THE ABOVE