I love that kink is a part of my life, it’s important to me, and I don’t think it is fair for me or anyone to come away with the idea that because of it they deserve to be assaulted, or that that assault is in some way mitigated

It’s tempting, even (especially?) as a victim, to do the Gus Grissom, ‘we’re engaged in a dangerous business’ thing, but that isn’t true and it’s a poisonous idea because when kink is involved there should be more caution, not less

I’m happily into some fairly heavy kink, I have been for years, with a fair number of partners. That’s not an uncommon experience for me, that’s a unique one

As far as extreme kink goes, I have a pretty vivid memory of lying face down on her bedroom floor, crying harder than I ever have in my life into her carpet, and her doorbell ringing, and I remember thinking it must be the police because of how much I had been screaming, and feeling resigned

I haven’t found any of her apologies convincing or meaningful, but I don’t want her to try and make any more to me. I’ve thought about her as much as I ever want to, and she and everyone else will just have to deal with that as they choose

with this much distance from it, looking at the by my count twelve visible scars she left me, I will say that I don’t think I can take any reparative or rehabilitative process she wants to do seriously, so she’s going to have to do them without my blessing if that’s the way she wants to go

in some ways her behaviour was worse than the statement suggests. but I was in this state where I was bouncing back and forth between wanting to defend her and hating her, and to an extent I still am. I suspect if I had tried to get into that it would have been a lot messier

it’s deliberately terse, and if it doesn’t talk about what we want done or what kind of ‘rehabilitative process’ we want to happen, it’s because the only way I could force myself to be at all dispassionate was by not mentioning those things

alright, look, I wrote the statement we agreed to put out and I wrote it that way for a reason. we wanted to minimise our embarrassment and humiliation and the ammunition we were handing to freaks and bigots, and we didn’t want Sophie to harm herself or get harmed by anyone else

it’s still fine. I got dragged back on here for this